Memories of Aunt Edy

Two Sisters (Detail of Painting)

In memory of my Aunt Edy

Edy and her sister Ruth were born in Pueblo, along with their brother Al (Itzak). During the Second World War, the two sisters went to USO dances at the Pueblo army, which is where Ruth met Hy (from Brooklyn) and Edy met Bob (from Connecticut). After the war, each couple began married life in the family home at 232 Broadway, and the two men joined their wives in working in the family business, Central Furniture. (Later the men became wholesale furniture reps while Ruth and Edy opened a gift shop in downtown Pueblo.)

So I grew up in a household that included my parents (Ruth and Hy) and myself, my Aunt Edy and Uncle Bob, my cousin Vicki, my Grandma Katz, who was deaf, and a long-standing boarder, Mrs. Brewster. My cousin and I were dressed like twins and when we were very young, called our parents Daddy Hy and Daddy Bob, Mommy Ruth and Mommy Edy. Despite this arrangement, it was always clear whose parents were whose.


But still, in many ways Aunt Edy was like a second mother to me. My mother was a night owl, and slept late, but I have always been an early riser and would wander downstairs to find Edy in the morning. Edy drove but my mother didn’t, so Edy often took us to school, to Sunday school, to the library. Later Edy became the Girl Scout leader for our troop. At high school reunions, my old friends from grade school still remember her.
Later, both couples moved to Aurora, Colorado, in neighboring condo townhouses, and cut a hole in the fence between their front yards. So the extended family continued. My kids always made a bee-line for Edy’s door. 


Edy was always an additional sounding board for me. This was especially important since my mom died in 1984, when I was only 35. I certainly needed Edy’s advice negotiating life’s curveballs.  
In 2016, Edy and I had an adventure together, a trip from Denver to Boston and then on to Baltimore, a trip involving trains, planes, and automobiles. Edy was 97 at the time. It was a great fun, and Edy had a chance to visit with my kids in Beverly, MA, and do a little sightseeing with us in Massachusetts.


Edy remained a role model for me. She made friends easily, especially with those who need help. She was resilient, having survived tough years as a caregiver, as well as health challenges of her own. Jokes and funny stories were part of every conversation. In her 80s and 90s, she took classes ranging from science to embroidery. She read the Harry Potter books and Shakespeare plays with her grandchildren. She loves to watch Korean sit coms. After cataract surgery at the age of 87, she was so excited about her improved vision that she began making and selling beautiful jewelry, and this past few years, had been teaching her grandchildren to make jewelry, too.  

I know there’s a lot of luck involved in living long and aging well. Even so, I think Edy’s example is instructive: keep learning, follow your interests, keep laughing, and stay connected. That’s good advice for living, no matter how old you are.

Two Sisters (Painting)

Written by Randa Dubnick

Images: “Two Sisters” (Painting by Randa Dubnick)

Dad in Florida (A Soldier’s Love Letter)

Dad in Florida (Soldier's Love Letter) EDITDad's Spanish Love Letter

It’s Veteran’s Day, so I was looking for a World War II photo of my father. He was from Brooklyn, but after enlisting, was briefly stationed in Pueblo, Colorado, where he met and married my mother, a few months before he would go to Europe. I usually look for war-time photos in the album mom kept, beginning with their courtship and marriage in Pueblo, including photos that my father sent back from overseas. But today I also looked in the boxes of my dad’s photos that my cousin Rori sent me last year, photos my father had kept for years. I was really looking for photos of Europe today, so nearly passed this one over. I had seen it before, and from other photos in my mom’s album, had concluded that my father must have been stationed in Florida right leaving for Europe. But before casting this photo aside, I turned it over to see if it was dated, and to my surprise, on the back found a love letter to my mother, written in Spanish.

My father studied Spanish in school, and he loved it. (Later, he read to me from the Spanish Reader’s Digest, and became the go-to person for Spanish-speaking customers in our family furniture store in Pueblo.) Did my mother know Spanish? No, maybe a bit of French. But I am sure that she loved the fact that he spoke Spanish. And I know she loved my father enough to find a way to figure it out.

Well, I fell in love with my father’s Spanish love letter, so I am posting it, even though it wasn’t at all what I was looking for. At first I thought this might not be the best choice for a Veteran’s Day post. But courage in war is about putting what you love on the line. That my father found love shortly before leaving to do his bit against the Nazis in World War II raised the stakes for loss. My parents married anyway. They didn’t know the future, and the fact that my father he found love on the road to war made his path all the more courageous.

People live on in what they pass along, how they are remembered. My father passed on his love of music, his love of languages, and most important, his kindness and openhearted nature. And his courage in the face of tyranny, an example I think about more and more. His memory is always a blessing for me, as was his life.
So here is the text of his letter in Spanish and in English (my translation):
“To Ruth
Para que tú puedes recordarme. He buscado las palabras para escritir quí, pero sín exito. Tú tienes un corazón de oro, y nuestros mentes viajar par il mismo camino, que nunca estoy tan feliz como cuando estoy contigo, y el salido de tu compania es con más dolor que perder el diente. Ésta no basta. Tú sabes lo que quiero decir.
Sinceramente,
Hy”

“To Ruth
So you can remember me. I have searched for the words to write, but without success. You have a heart of gold and our minds travel the same way, that I am never so happy as when I am with you, and leaving your company is more painful than having a tooth pulled. This is not enough. You know what I want to say.
Sincerely,
Hy”

Remembering the Sussers

 

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In 2006, I painted portraits of the Sussers. These are pencil sketches I did to prepare.

When I was growing up in Pueblo, Colorado, the Sussers lived around the corner. I think I was maybe 5 or 6 years old when they moved in. Their oldest son Herman and I became playmates and friends at grade school and Sunday School. Together we made mischief across the neighborhood.

Herman’s mother Lili was very nice to his ornery little playmate. I was fascinated by her musical voice and her accent. She and her husband were survivors of the concentration camps in Poland. At the time, I knew Mrs. Susser as my friend’s mom who had a pretty smile and a great laugh and who made amazing snacks like rice krispie bars and caramel apples from scratch, especially around Halloween. The irony that these treats were created by a concentration camp survivor was lost on me at the time. But in my defense, I will point out that down the block, at my house, about 80% of the cooking was done by my Russian grandma, whose Ashkenazi desserts were coffee cake and maybe mandel bread if we were lucky, so those “All-American” treats at the Sussers were amazing to me!

The Susser family was one of three families of Holocaust survivors who were placed in Pueblo.  I also got to know the children of the other two families at Sunday School, but I knew Herman best because we lived so close by. I always liked going to the Sussers. And Lili liked to speak Yiddish with my grandmother.

My family told me that the the Sussers (and the other two families) had been in concentration camps, but it took a while for me to understand what that meant.  I gradually put that together with letters from far away that brought my Grandmother to tears at the kitchen table.  I think I was around 8 when my Grandma Katz took down some books to show me pictures of the Nazi camps.  That might sound like a lot for a grade school kid to take in, but my Grandmother knew that I would need to know.  The Holocaust was never an abstraction; it was personal.

The Sussers were an important part of my childhood, and I have remained friends with Herman and his family through the years.  I really don’t remember much about life before I met Herman and his family. As time passed, I learned more. This is what I know now:

Lili lost her whole family in the holocaust but rose from the ashes of that loss. She started again. She married Julius, also a holocaust survivor, who had stayed alive partly because he was a skilled soccer player. The Sussers moved to the U.S., crossing the Atlantic with their young son Herman. And from that the Susser family grew to include three children, many grandchildren and great- grandchildren

The Sussers learned English and moved to a place I doubt they had ever heard of, Pueblo, Colorado. They became part of a new community, and friends with enough of my relatives that I think of the Sussers as part of the meshpocha (family).

From the longings of her lost childhood, Lili Susser created a beautiful doll collection. She always seemed to be laughing, and Julius Susser always seemed to have a twinkle in his eye. He built a toy train table for Herman that was the envy of 8-year-old me.

From Lili’s memories of the holocaust, she wrote a book, starting with notes on little pieces of paper. She did all this in her adopted language of English. With help from Herman and his wife Kerry, Lili wrote and  published the book “Lili’s Story: My Memory of the Holocaust“. She brought the book along when she gave her many talks to school children about the Holocaust. Her book was translated into Polish and she was honored in Poland as well.

Julius Susser died in 2004. Lili Susser died recently and was honored by a front page story in the Pueblo Chieftain, our hometown paper, as a Holocaust survivor and author who helped many, many Colorado children learn about the Nazis.

A post-script:  Lili Susser was buried on Nov. 1, 2019 in Pueblo, Colorado. There was a reception at Temple Emanuel that day.  By Monday, November 4, a national news story broke that on the very day of the event honoring Lili Susser,  the FBI had prevented an attack by a white nationalist on Pueblo’s Temple Emanuel.

Now, more than ever, we need to remember the Sussers and their stories. May their memories be for a blessing.

Portrait as of May 9 A Post-scriptPortrait of Lili Susser

My portraits of Lili and Julius Susser, painted in 2006.  At the time I painted these portraits, I was trying to capture these memories for my friend.  True enough, but now I understand that I was also capturing them for myself as well.

 

 

 

 

 

 

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